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My daughter is anxious about activities re-starting

My daughter is anxious about activities re-starting

My 12 year old daughter is struggling with anxiety at the moment. She is nervous of going to friends’ houses, and of activities starting back up. When we are in the car on the way to something and she is upset or is begging me not to leave what's the best course of...

How can I get my daughter toilet- trained in time for Montessori?

How can I get my daughter toilet- trained in time for Montessori?

My daughter is two-and-a-half and after crèche closures in the pandemic we re-evaluated and decided that I would work less and she would attend a Montessori school instead, in September. However, she must be toilet trained before she starts - no nappies or pull-ups,...

How can I persuade my son to move up to the attic room?

How can I persuade my son to move up to the attic room?

We are hoping to convert our attic later this summer. The plan always was to move our 10-year-old son up there, so that he and his younger brother can have a room each. He’ll even get an ensuite! When we mentioned recently that we might be able to get a builder now,...

My son is sending and receiving naked pictures. What should I do?

My son is sending and receiving naked pictures. What should I do?

I just discovered that my 15-year-old son has been sending and receiving naked pictures with his girlfriend. I’m horrified. I can’t quite believe he’d do this. I’ve said to him over and over again not to be watching porn and then he goes and does this. I’ve taken his...

My daughter and I are clashing about technology. Please help!

My daughter and I are clashing about technology. Please help!

My 8-year-old daughter is growing totally out of hand, the longer this lockdown continues. I work from home and I must admit that I give her the tablet when I’m on Zoom meetings, or work calls, as I’d get no peace otherwise. But then, when I try to take it back from...

Why does my daughter keep saying that she’s ugly?

Why does my daughter keep saying that she’s ugly?

My 7-year-old has been through a difficult time over the last couple of years as her father and I have split up. There was emotional and psychological abuse in the relationship. Over the last while she has been saying that she looks ugly. I tell her what I see,...

My teenage daughter gets angry and won’t accept punishment

My teenage daughter gets angry and won’t accept punishment

My daughter is 15. Her nana died unexpectedly last November. They were very close. She is a good girl but it has made her angry since. If she gives us cheek, or gets angry about some limit we set, I take her phone off her for a while, but then she erupts and there is...

How is lockdown shaping your child’s future?

How is lockdown shaping your child’s future?

We’ve locked ourselves and our children down. We’ve retreated to our homes, isolating our households from those of our friends’ and families’. In doing so we have successfully slowed the spread of Covid-19. The lockdown has been an effective public health measure for...

My toddler is hurting the new baby. How can we get her to stop?

My toddler is hurting the new baby. How can we get her to stop?

We have a new baby and an 18-month-old girl. The 18-month-old is slapping the baby whenever we let her come close to him. We talk to her about what we are doing and say, “be gentle” and we stroke the baby softly to show her what we mean, but our toddler will quickly...

My three-year-old shows no affection and his behaviour is upsetting

My three-year-old shows no affection and his behaviour is upsetting

I have a 3-year-old son. He shows no sign of wanting to start potty training, uses his soother all the time, and isn’t showing any affection, apart from when he wants something or is very upset, then he will come to me. He resists my hugs and the last few weeks he’s...

My son is stressed about the new LC calculated grades system

My son is stressed about the new LC calculated grades system

My son was due to do his Leaving Cert this year and, with all of the uncertainty until now, he found it difficult to stay focused. He is really worried too about the system that is now proposed and how the grades will actually be awarded, as there are a couple of...

My husband and I are fighting a lot more since the virus

My husband and I are fighting a lot more since the virus

Myself and my husband are rowing more than ever in the last 2 months. Money has gotten very tight and neither of us knows how we’ll get things financially back on track if this virus ever goes away. With all the stress we are fighting lots, and I’m worried about the...

My 10-year-old daughter is getting more and more angry

My 10-year-old daughter is getting more and more angry

My 10yr old daughter has always had a quick temper and used to have huge tantrums before she started in primary school but it settled a bit. Since the lockdown, though, her anger has been ever-present. It’s like we can’t look at her without her snapping at us or...

Should I pay my children for doing chores around the house?

Should I pay my children for doing chores around the house?

We have three children the eldest is 12 and the other two are 7 and 5. Since we’ve all been cooped up the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to get them all to do small chores around the house – they make no shortage of mess!! I'm really struggling to get any of them to...

I can’t balance working from home and childcare

I can’t balance working from home and childcare

I’m trying to work from home and it is just a nightmare with my three children. They are constantly dragging out of me and I know I am responding crossly which isn’t helping. My husband at least gets to leave the house for his work and he doesn’t seem to get it when I...

My four-year-old touches herself. Is this normal and what do I do?

My four-year-old touches herself. Is this normal and what do I do?

I am concerned about my 4-year-old daughter who will lie on the floor or couch very regularly and rub herself against her hand until her face is red and she is out of breath. If I play, or do an activity, with her she won’t do this but if she is left to free-play, she...

I’m worried that lockdown is making my daughter depressed

I’m worried that lockdown is making my daughter depressed

I’m worried about my 14-year-old girl who used to be really sociable before this whole lockdown, and loved being with her friends and is missing them terribly. She has completely closed herself off in her room and only comes out for meals. I wonder if she’s depressed?...

I stopped my kids playing Playstation but my son keeps crying for it!

I stopped my kids playing Playstation but my son keeps crying for it!

I’ve 4 kids aged 16, 9, 7 and 5. They are addicted to their PlayStation. Their mood and behaviour is terrible, so I removed the controllers last week. The 9 year old cries as he said it’s his only way to communicate with his friends, I offered FaceTime and he said no....